Today (the 10th, when I wrote this entry... and am just now adding the pictures to post it...) is our four year wedding anniversary. It was pretty much a normal day. I went to Amy's to hang out (I think we're going to start our Thursday get togethers again, and that is good) and to have a recipe exchange, ran errands with Angela, worked, cooked dinner, ate by myself and went to Enrichment with Clara. I really wanted to go to the Enrichment, so we decided to go out Saturday night instead and Jason was going to put Clara to bed while I went to Enrichment. He ended up having to stay late to get a project done (of course it was this night, not any other night of the week), so he was going to pick Clara up from Enrichment... but left so late from work I told him not to bother. He still wasn't there when it was over and I only got to listen to about 1/4 of the class because Clara was so tired and thought she needed to crawl away from me if I was sitting in the audience or into the audience if we were in the other room.
When I got home, Jason had bought me a gift that he was SO excited to give me: a new battery for my camera. If only it were the right size to fit my camera... :) The poor guy was oh so disapointed. Then, I stopped working at 1100pm so we could watch a movie together. I love that we can be doing nothing, but if we're together, it's enjoyable. We have a perfect marriage, so what else can I say? Ha ha, just kidding. The past four years haven't been perfect, but overall, they've been good. I enjoy having Jason to share the ups and downs of life with and look forward to the next year of marriage.
Dating...
Married... (who knew my face looked so fat when I got married?)
In love...
And now...
He LOVES LOVES LOVES Clara. He loves to play with her, teaches her and makes her laugh. I get mad when Jason neglects to show me he cares or loves me, but I don't think he wants to see how mad I'd get if he did that with Clara. He's a really fun dad.
I'm not and never have been afraid of him. I know this sounds weird, but the other night I was thinking about how awful that'd be to have a husband you're afraid of and you dread to see if they had a bad day at work or something else was bothering them.
We've been able to laugh endlessly about very bad circumstances we've come across (i.e. our current financial situation). Sure, there are still plenty of tears but I can't imagine how much worse it'd be if we didn't laugh together about the ironies and humor of it all.
Jason works very hard and enjoys doing so. During school he has a lot on his plate, but has managed to be successful.
He lets me have total control over our budget. :)
He likes and eats most vegetables. Again, another weird one but I hate it when people, especially adults, don't think they have to eat their vegetables because they are adults. Not only is it not healthy, but it's a bad example to kids.
He thinks I'm the world's greatest cook. I went say my theory of why this is, but, he loves almost everything I cook so it makes my job easy.
His testimony is strong enough that I've never once worried about him becoming inactive or doing things he shouldn't. I find comfort in not having to worry about that because I am pretty sure I couldn't deal with it.
And just because I'm obnoxious and like to talk about our dating story, here's a little survey that I've created from various posts I've seen:
What is his name? Jason How long have you been together? It's been five and a half years since we first met... that makes me feel old.
Who eats more? Usually Jason, but when I was first nursing, I could certainly keep up with him. Who said I love you first? Jason... and continued to say it many times until I felt emotionally stable enough to reciprocate
Who is taller? Jason, thank goodness
Who sings better? Probably me
Who is smarter? Jason thinks he is. Anything I say, even if I'm just reading a headline, he disagrees with and tells me how it really is. I wish I knew when we were dating he knew everything. So, I'll leave this one up in the air.
Whose temper is worst? Mine for sure, unless it involves sports or politicians.
Who does the laundry? The maid/nanny... who also cleans up all of his messes, grocery shops, cooks, etc. Until the maid has a breakdown, then Jason helps for a little bit and then waits for the next epidsode.
Who does the dishes? Similar to the laundray, 99% me, unless I throw a fit, then he helps momentarily
Who pays the bills? Me
Who mows the lawn? My dad... twice a year...
Who cooks dinner? Me. Jason said he'd cook once a week if I bought him the grill I did. That lasted a whole two weeks.
Who drives when you are together? Jason
Who is more stubborn? Normally, it's me, but lately, Jason knows everything and if people don't agree with him, they are WRONG because he's always right.
Who is the first to admit that they are wrong? Since I'm never wrong and Jason never admits when he's wrong, this is another one we'll have to leave up in the air! Actually, when we were dating, Jason always was first and I never was. In the four years we've been married, I think he's done it maybe twice.
Who kissed who first? Jason tried for weeks and then finally got what he deserved.
Who asked who out? I needed a date and my friend set us up on a blind date.
Who proposed? Um, I don't think I would have ever proposed to someone.
Who has more friends? I talk to everyone, Jason rarely says a word, so me.
Who wears the pants in the family? Me and I wear a glove on my iron hand.
Where did you meet your husband? I distinctly remember the first time I saw Jason. He was my blind date as part of a "lab" for the "Eternal Marriage" class I was taking at Institute. I wanted to get married but hated anything having to do with the male species unless I was related so I took this class and made my friend Carli take it with me. I asked a friend from my HS days to go with me but he was busy so Carli was going to just get her little brother and his friends to go with us. Instead, she decided Jason could go with me. I knew his little brother from junior high, but had never met him and figured he'd just be another let down (I know, I'm so mean) like the last 15 guys I'd gone out with. When I walked into Carli's house and saw him sitting on the couch and realized he was good looking, I was quite embarrassed that I'd already asked Carli for a wet rag to get the deoderant off my shirt not realizing he was there.
What was the first thing you said to your husband? Hi or something and then I quickly showed myself into the bedroom so I could clean my shirt.
Where was your first date? We had dinner at the Institute building followed by a little presentation. We went back to Carli's and I continued to think, oh great, another one of these mutes (up to this point he hadn't said much)... But then Jason suggested we go to Neilson's and he paid for me, so I was impressed since technically I had asked him out. Then we went back to Carli's and talked in my car for a few hours. He told me to call him and I apologized but told him I didn't call boys. Like the smart kid he is, he got my number to call me.
Where was your first kiss? After MANY rejections, I gave in to Jason's lips in his truck on the way home from his family reunion in 2002.
Did you have a long engagement/courtship? Our first date was July 11, 2002, we got engaged the first weekend in August 2003 and were married January 10, 2004... longer than most Mormons but I wouldn't have done it sooner (not because I don't enjoy being married, just because of school, planning, avoiding getting frazzled, etc.)
Where did you get engaged? The Wedge in Scottsdale. Before you laugh like some people do, it was not in the South part where people bike, skateboard and roller blade. It was in the North part by a pond with ducks and geese. My ever so considerate father told me he had lunch with my future husband when I got home that day, even though Jason specifically asked him not to say anything. Anyway, I totally knew it was happening and Jason was extremely nervous. We had the most bizarre conversation about the difference between ducks and geese and I think it was more awkward for both of us than any other point in our entire relationship, including our first date, first kiss, etc. Then, he acted like we were going to leave and I was completely confused as to why I still didn't have a ring on my finger... so I turned to walk to the car and he grabbed my hand and when I turned back around, he was on his knee, still totally nervous.
How was the honeymoon? Perfect, and then it went downhill from there. Ha ha, just kidding. We went to San Francisco and had a wonderful time. Neither of us had been there and since we didn't have a lot of time or money, it accomodated both nicely. We ate some great food, saw lots of things that excited me (the Muirwood Forest, historical sites, etc.) and Jason still talks about how much he enjoyed visiting Alcatraz.